what do i need?
Monday, April 21, 2008it’s been a loong time since i ate out alone. i spent a couple of minutes first wandering around the mall then i finally decided that i should have lunch. i didn’t feel like eating because my mood was adversely affecting my appetite. but i had time to spare and i didn’t want to be stuck in the office for the rest of my lunch break.
i decided to have lunch at red ribbon. coincidence or a product of the unconscious that i always eat at red ribbon whenever i’m alone. i feel comfortable dining by myself here unlike in other places where i feel self-conscious.
while trying to finish my meal (which i didn’t enjoy as much as i would like to because of my mood), i was thinking of where i am in maslow’s hierarchy of needs. i think my focus now is on satisfying my social needs. i’m not a sociable person - friendly but not sociable. i think i have neglected this need because of my introvert personality but now i feel that’s it’s imperative for me to cultivate relationships with people.
according to wikipedia, a person can be susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety, and depression due to the absence of social elements. i’m not suffering from social anxiety or depression. i’m not clinically depressed that is. but i think i’m sad.
well, this is just a phase. i’ve been in this phase before and i know that this shall pass just like it did before. and then i will feel better again. when i feel better again i hope the lonely phase will never visit me ever.
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Wll, we all go through those phases at one time or the other. It’s perfectly normal, IMHO.
Posted by Ade at April 21, 2008, 5:14 pmWow! It has been sooooo looooong since I last heard of Maslow. Hehehehe
Let me see…..loneliness? Well, I’ve been known to stay in my room for days. I don’t normally like going out. In fact, my friends all know this and have just about given up inviting me out, cause they know that when I’m in the mood, ako pa ang pasimuno ng gimik. Hehehe.
Anyway, yes, introverts normally get bouts of loneliness, but as you’ve said it all passes and life must go on. But I wouldn’t be worried about being sad. We are afterall human. 
thanks for your .02 greg! 
i have the answers now i need the actions.
Ade, i had to google what IMHO meant! hahaha. thanks for reaffirming that i am normal and i haven’t gone bonkers.
madaya ka. you want to be the one to call the shots when it comes to going out. hahaha.
introverts unite! hehehe. you are back to your optimistic self. i’m happy!
the last comment is for virus.
I believe you have the answers there. Social interaction.
Give it a whirl.
My .02
Greg
Posted by Greg at April 21, 2008, 4:59 pm